One Easy Thing
As I went through my lymphedema as a new thing year, I had to learn quite a few new things. I certainly had those days when my rebellion was fully bloomed. I simply didn’t want to change. I had days and weeks where my old habits lead me astray and my will-power deflated.
My self-confidence was pretty weak, but the thing that helped was the ‘one easy thing’. If I could see one simply, tiny step in the right direction, I would try to do that. If I did it, I gave myself heaps of praise. I remember thinking that every big change that I attempted could be broken down into tiny easy steps. All I had to do was do those ‘easy’ things. My job was to make each step doable, somehow, some way.
The self-praise seemed a little silly but I told myself that I have managed a step (albeit small) and I could feel good about this. I found as I focused on my mini-success I was encouraged. This worked so much better than adding up all the ways this was hard, and all the challenges that lay ahead and how unlikely I was to succeed. Simply put, this exercise of self-praise framed my actions in a positive light.
So many times the way to move forward was not a bigger whip, but the gentle knowledge that the best I could do was keep on.
I also kept as my philosophy that to keep on doing the same thing and expect different results is insanity. So I would try different things until I found the thing or things that worked. It is not essential that you know the right action. I experimented (especially in regards to challenging my eating disorders). Simply put, I was building self-trust.